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Discover how you connect in relationships
The 4 attachment styles are: Secure (comfortable with intimacy and independence), Anxious (craves closeness but fears abandonment), Avoidant (values independence and may avoid deep emotional connection), and Disorganized (conflicting desires for both closeness and distance). These patterns form in early childhood and influence adult relationships.
Our test is based on attachment theory research developed by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth. While it provides valuable insights into your relationship patterns, attachment styles can be fluid and may vary in different relationships or life stages. It's designed for self-reflection and personal growth rather than clinical diagnosis.
Yes! Attachment styles can evolve through healing relationships, therapy, and conscious personal work. While early patterns tend to persist, many people develop more secure attachment through positive experiences, self-awareness, and intentional growth work.
Use your results to understand your relationship patterns and triggers. Share with your partner to improve communication and mutual understanding. Focus on your growth areas while appreciating your strengths. Consider how your style interacts with others' styles in your relationships.
Remember that all attachment styles have strengths and developed as adaptive responses to early experiences. No style is "bad" - they're survival strategies that served you. Focus on growth and healing rather than judgment. With awareness and effort, you can develop more secure patterns over time.
Notice your patterns in relationships. What triggers your insecurities or defensive behaviors? Awareness is the first step toward positive change.
Be gentle with yourself as you learn. Your attachment style developed for good reasons. Treat yourself with the same kindness you'd show a good friend.
Share your attachment style with your partner and ask about theirs. Understanding each other's patterns can prevent misunderstandings and build empathy.
Develop a secure relationship with yourself through self-care, mindfulness, and meeting your own needs. Internal security strengthens external relationships.
When you notice old patterns arising, pause and choose a different response. Small changes over time can create significant shifts in your relationships.
Consider therapy or counseling if you want to work on attachment wounds. Professional support can accelerate healing and provide valuable tools for growth.
Understand your relationship patterns and build more secure, fulfilling connections.
Gain insight into your emotional responses and relationship behaviors.
Learn to express your needs clearly and understand others' attachment needs.
Develop better strategies for managing relationship anxiety and triggers.
Understand how to provide secure attachment for your children and break negative cycles.
Use attachment awareness as a foundation for healing and developing greater emotional security.